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Notes from the Crosswalk — By Rob Quinn, MS

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Notes from the Crosswalk | R4 Style

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Notes from the Crosswalk | October 9 — Ageism Awareness Day

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National Gay Men’s HIV/AIDS Awareness Day | September 27, 2026

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Self-Care Is Where the Crossing Begins

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Twenty-Five Years Later, the Morning Still Remains

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SURVIVOR

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August 26, 2026 marks one year since the release of On the Other Side of the Street.

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I Did Not Choose What Changed My Life, but I Could Choose What I Built From It

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A Guncles Day Reflection on Visibility, Chosen Family, and the Generations That Follow

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They Overlap. They Repeat. They Evolve.

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For years, I believed my story might be too specific to matter to anyone else.

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Thirteen years ago, I did not know I was beginning a trilogy.

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By Rob Quinn, MS

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Notes from the Crosswalk\n By Rob Quinn, MS

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Notes from the Crosswalk\nBy Rob Quinn, MS

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A World Elder Abuse Awareness Day Reflection

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Notes From the Crosswalk

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Recently, I received a notice from the Social Security Administration explaining that I had reached full retirement age and was now entitled to retirement benefits. I would no longer receive disability benefits.

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HIV Long-Term Survivors Awareness Day — June 5, 2026

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Notes from the Crosswalk

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Notes from the Crosswalk

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Honoring LGBT Elders Day Through the Lives That Lit the Way

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There was a time in my life when I measured my days too simply.

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This Mother’s Day, I turned on the photo app on my television expecting nothing more than the usual scrolling memories.

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There was a time in my life when every major change felt like proof that I had failed.

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There’s a quiet shift that happens at the end of the week.

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The Different Types of Crosswalks

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“Life does not always give you clarity. Sometimes it gives you lived experience. And it is up to you to grow from it—to tell the truth about where you are standing at the curb, to find the courage to step into the crossw...

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People often ask me what one of my go-to tools is—the thing I return to when life feels unsettled or unclear.

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Sexual Assault Awareness Month — April 2026 (25th Anniversary)

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There are moments in public life when the clearest thing we can say is also the simplest:

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Notes from the Crosswalk

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There are losses that don’t look like loss.

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Looking Back

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There’s something about today.

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Nine days after discharge, I found myself back in the Emergency Department.

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This reflection comes a little later than I originally planned.

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There is no place like home.

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Notes from the Crosswalk — R4 Style

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Everything in life is a stepping stone to what comes next.

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What “Recovery” Does — and Does Not — Mean in R4 Style

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“Sobriety did not remove pain. It strengthened my presence.”

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There comes a moment in every life when forward isn’t automatic.

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National Heart Month Reflections from the Crosswalk

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January 22, 2026

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January 1, 2026

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There’s something about the final days of a year that makes me pause. Not in a dramatic way — but in that quiet, reflective way where you suddenly notice every step you’ve taken and every step you didn’t think you’d sur...

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A 4rs Reflection on Long-term Survival

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Rethink. Rebuild. Rise.

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